I have come to know that being a God-fearing Christian and very single is very challenging. As easy as it sounds and as simple as it sounds, it is not easy to be entirely single in every aspect of the word.. Well, I will save the discussion on what it means to be truly and entirely single in Christ for another time because this week, let us concentrate on the challenges of singleness.
I have come to understand what Paul was trying to say in;
Romans7:15-20; ‘14 For we know that the law is spiritual, but I am carnal, n sold under sin. 15 For what I am doing, I do not understand. o For what I will to do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do. 16 If, then, I do what I will not to do, I agree with the law that it is good. 17 But now, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me. 18 For I know that pin me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells; for to will is present with me, but how to perform what is good I do not find. 19 For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice.20 Now if I do what I will not to do, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me.’
So now I realise the battle I am facing is huge. I am fighting to be successfully single in Christ. I am also fighting against flesh because it is in constant demand. The flesh desires almost everything and lusts for corruptible things. Who agrees with me that flesh is very forceful? It compels me to do things I do not wish to do because I am now in Christ and it is by God’s will and not mine.
So I cannot pick my mobile phone and chat up a man when I feel the desire to be loved. I cannot just throw myself into the arms of a man when I feel the desire to be touched, hugged and smooched. I cannot lay my hair down and release my sexual emotions. It is not my will to be done anymore!
Not only is that, being single is like a very high mountain in front of me that I need to overcome. I do not have anyone to make decisions with. There is no-one to discuss fears or failures with. I have on-one to make choices with. I have no-one to answer to and consult to but do things the way I see fit. Who knows I have made the right choices? Who know I have made the correct decision? Who out there would agree with me that two heads make better sense than one head? I cannot confide in anyone about issues that I am facing. I have no-one to celebrate with, to laugh with, to jubilate with, to fight with, to disagree with and no adult talks. I have no-one to run my errands when I am sick. This means I have to get out of bed to go to work because there is no other to look after me. Then I deal with a teenage daughter single-handedly and since there is no man in the house to straighten her up, it is strenuous on my own. It is a biggest challenge! I have a boy who is soon going in his teens, Lord help me!
I am certain you would agree with me that sometimes we need that embrace from your better half and whisper in your ear that everything will be alright because you are in it together. Two people together produce more strength than one person, right?
However, I would like you to say, ‘hallelujah to the Kings of Glory! Say it with me that indeed we can do all things through Christ who gives us the strength; strength to stand, strength to be able to achieve and strength to help us sustain, amen!
Let us talk about singleness or singlehood or single-full or single-some...